The Third Blessing is a dominion of love where everyone lives as one huge family. A family takes care of the weak. A family is sensitive to the individual. The UC needs to create deep love between the members as friends who will die for each other. This will only happen when members live close together in trinities and groups of trinities. UC members in America haven't lived in trinities because there was no stability. Everything was so mobile no one could get roots and form a community. We have been like gypsies camped outside town. Now it's time to go into Canaan and build a stronger community than others. It's time to sink roots, instead of pulling them up. One of the curses of the UC and 20th century America has been it mobility. The good side was that travel can help a person to not get provincial and open up to other types of people. The negatives far outweigh the positives in losing extended families and communities. For most people the grass wasn't greener on the other hill. Robert Nisbet in Twilight of Authority says that America gave up its focus on local community and even disparaged it in the 1920s. This is the trend I have written of in this book how America threw out so many good things from the Victorians. Nisbet says, "World War I is, I think, the sharp dividing line. Afterward interest in local community did not attain its earlier intensity, flavor, and eloquence. The influence of Woodrow Wilson and his New Freedom in this country and of Lenin in European radical thought had a great deal to do with turning revolutionary and progressive thought away from its concern with locality or, for that matter, any of the smaller unities. The nation, the centralized nation freed of local community became the symbol of reaction, dullness, mediocrity, and oppression of mind. Sinclair Lewis's Main Street, Babbitt, and other novels were only the most popular of a literature in the 1920's that satirized, caricatured, and pilloried the village or small town. And such rendering of local roots was in keeping with the increasing nationalism to be seen in the social sciences, in education, and in government policy from World War I on."
One of the great losses of the migration to the city was loss of love for nature. Many people take care of their yard and do some gardening, but people need more than that to nurture their spirit. Stressful two week vacations to national parks is not enough. The UC should live in communities that have some acreage for adults to walk. The Victorians would go on walks. Children need to run. And dogs need space too. We need to get back to the rhythm of small communities where people know and care for each other. Some of my greatest memories are time I spent on my grandparent's farm eating an organic juicy peach right off the tree, gathering eggs, riding a horse, playing in the barn, hunting for squirrels and rabbits as I walked along a stream. It is magic to wake up to the sights and sounds of nature and a loving community. Just play with the numbers. To make it simple, lets use the number 10 for the size of each UC family -- a number less than Father talks of. If you had that many children, either by yourself or by adopting, and each of them had 10 children, you would have 100 grandchildren. The next generation would be 1000, then 10,000, then 100,000 then one million. Within a few generations one couple could have a large city of just their descendants. If every UC couple had more than 10 children and I assume many would want to adopt from third world countries, just think of the joy it would bring to God to save those children and to see His family become the most powerful and exciting group on earth. The UC needs to start building cities with lots of green space that supply most of the food locally. This will end the terrible erosion and use of chemicals that agribusiness uses because it thinks it has to use to make a profit.
M.Scott Peck said, "In and through community lies the salvation of the world." More and more people are beginning to realize that life is better in a community. There are more and more books on the subject. Carolyn Shaffer writes in Creating Community Anywhere: "Only two or three generations ago, community was a fact of life for most people. Neighbors left their doors open, helped each other build things, and kept an eye out for one another's well-being. In 1930, less than eight percent of American households consisted of a single person, and many families occupied the same house for generations."
"Today, almost a quarter of U.S. households consist of people living alone. Doors, literally and figuratively, are closed and locked to keep out crime and strangers. Americans move so frequently that direct mail marketers consider a two-year-old mailing list hopelessly out of date; more than thirty percent of the addresses will have changed in that time. More and more women, who used to be the caretakers of community while the men pursued opportunities in the larger world, now find it necessary to work outside the home as well. Neither women nor men feel they have much time to maintain the ties of mutual support. It is commonplace for families as well as singles to have little or no contact with others who live only a door or two away."
"Earlier generations relied upon family and community for different functions than people do today. Not that many decades ago, relatives and neighbors helped each other give birth at homes and eventually die there. They nursed one another to health, took in orphaned children of brothers and sisters who died young, and gave up personal ambitions to carry on the family business or to care for an aging parent. Today, institutions and professionals have taken over many of these roles. People go to hospitals, schools, and nursing homes to receive health care and education."
George Will wrote, "Clearly this nation, though steeped in the severe individualism of the frontier notion of freedom, has a yearning for the community feeling that comes from collective undertakings...The question is whether any enterprise other than war can tap that yearning." Father's war against Satan and his dream of the whole world being blessed and living in condominiums will accomplish this.
Robert Nisbet wrote, "The towering moral problem of the age [is] the problem of community lost and community regained." Walt Whitman wrote:
I dream'd in a dream I saw
invincible to the attacks
of the whole rest of the
I dream'd that was the new city
Shaffer writes how businesses are seeing that they need a community spirit: "At the Quaker Oats pet food plant in Topeka, one production worker's performance deteriorated until he finally made a serious mistake that would have caused some companies to fire him. Instead, three fellow members of his work team began counseling and working with him on a weekly basis until his performance was up to par."
"The founder of Harbor Sweets, a Massachusetts candy company, insists that his diverse work force operates on total trust, with no time clocks, no efficiency measures, and no secrets. Productivity is high because, he says, 'love is good business.'"
"I know this is going to sound sort of hokey, but I work here because of the family feeling.' says a manager at Levi Strauss & Company in San Francisco. After twenty-two years with the company, he cannot imagine leaving."
Tom Peters says, "Those few American corporations that manage to convey a genuine sense of community and belonging to their employees are thriving as a consequence." Max DePree says, "In most vital organizations, there is a common bond of interdependence, mutual interest, interlocking contributions, and simple joy." Shaffer writes, "The ultimate employee-based structure is the employee-owned company, in which people are literally invested in the firm. More than 11,000 American firms have some sort of employee stock ownership plan (ESOP), and many also involve employees in running the organization."
Government, businesses, churches and all organizations have a hierarchy. God's way is to diffuse power, not centralize it. If organizations from the family level to huge corporations and governments do not empower those at the bottom, they will fail. The ultimate example is the former Soviet Union and todays North Korea. They are examples of people who can't even feed themselves, let alone compete with their neighbors. Men in leadership positions such as husbands, CEOs or the President of the United States should not be dictatorial, but raise others to be leaders, to allow for mistakes, to encourage creativity, to be friends with their coworkers. Father says that when children grow up they are friends to their parents. Elders must be respected but elders must also respect those under them. True leaders raise people to take their position so they can go on to other things. Leaders have to make final decisions sometimes, but they do so after listening respectfully to others. Mainly, he delegates power and is a teacher and coach. The majority doesn't necessarily rule, but they must feel they are listened to and respected. The focus is on getting the job done, not titles. Warren Bennis writes, "An organization should, by definition, function organically, which means that its purposes should determine its structure, rather than the other way around, and that it should function as a community rather than a hierarchy, and offer autonomy to its members, along with tests, opportunities, and rewards, because ultimately an organization is merely the means, not the end."
The primary community is the family. Parents are supposed to be living with their adult children as extended families. We need to return to the way our ancestors lived. And we need to go forward by living with others of the same faith in condominiums as Father commands us. The way Americans live now is ridiculous and tragic. In Cohousing the authors write, "In previous centuries, households were made up of at least six people. In addition to having many children, families often shared their homes with boarders, relatives, or servants. Relatives usually lived nearby. These large households provided both children and adults with a diverse intergenerational network of relationships in the home. The idea that the nuclear family should live on its own without the support and assistance of the extended family or surrounding community is relatively new, even in the United States."
Let's grow geometically
I think that every blessed couple should have at least twelve children. Many women may not want to physically have that many and some may want to but can't. Therefore, each couple should save some of the millions of street kids around the world by bringing them into their homes. We should begin the process of settling down and making roots. Let's say each family had an average of six boys and six girls. Most, if not all the boys, should stay together. Their wives form a school to homeschool the children. If each of the six boys has twelve children then there will be 72 children. The boys build businesses and attract others to live in their community. Pretty soon there would be enough to have a city. With so many people in a few generations they would have their own hospital and theme park. There would be farms to feed everyone and food left over to give to the poor. These communities will inspire the world. Since most of the girls will follow their husbands, they will encourage them to build similar communities. Her six brothers will give money and visit her where she lives to help build a community around her family.
It should be an exception to the rule that boys leave their parents and go live somewhere else. Just think how much less tragedy there would have been in human history if men had lived as trinities. Millions of men have had to fight wars, millions have had to leave to pursue some dream, millions have got sick and countless millions have died leaving women alone to fend for themselves. Recently I watched a video series on the pioneers who came on the Oregon Trail. The suffering of mankind has been indescribable. In one scene the narrator read a passage of a diary of a woman who told of how a few men, including her husband, had gone out to hunt for some animal for supper, and one of the men had an accident and died. When she was told this the woman described in her diary the grief, suffering and terror this woman went through and how terrifying her life had become as she had to go on with her children in the brutal trail that lay ahead. What if there were a trinity? She would have had two men to take care of her.
Sometimes I watch shows of charitable organizations that ask you for twenty dollars a month to care for a child in a third world country. I'll never forget one in particular. The famous TV star, Alex Trebek, was in Bogota, Columbia. In one scene he was surrounded by a dozen boys. It was at night. He said these boys are street kids who have nothing. He then shined a light on a bunch of boys, many just 6 or 7 years old who were all asleep and huddled together. He said he had a coat on and he still felt chilled. The children were in thin rags. You can't help but cry. Let's get these kids into our homes and be their parents. Let's get our kids to do the same. We should work with governments to make it easier to get these kids adopted by families around the world. I met a man recently who was in the navy and he saw in Korea a orphanage run by Catholic nuns. Outside the house there was a small fence going clear around the house. During the night people would give their babies away by putting them in this area. In the morning the nuns would come out and gather up the babies and take them in. Let's get those babies into our homes.
The UC is living as isolated nuclear families in single family dwellings. Before, they lived in communes. Neither one is God's architecture. Formation stage was communes; growth stage is individual homes; completion stage is living together in communities. Stephen Covey in 7 Habits of Highly Effective People divides people's growth into three stages: dependent (to me this would be living in communes), independent (isolated nuclear families), and interdependent (communities).
Father says we cannot grow alone. He has always lived with others in a community. He said, "You cannot go the way of faith alone. You need a like-minded friend in faith. More than three people should be one. That's why a trinity is needed." He explains that God teaches us through others, "God cannot teach human beings directly when they make mistakes. He cannot teach us vertically. But if three people become one, when one makes a mistake and the other two don't, He can instruct the mistaken one about what he did wrong."
Satan isolates people, like he did Eve, and then overpowers them. The 19th century often lived as extended families and in small communities. When the pioneers went west they went as a group of wagon trains. The twentieth century is isolated nuclear families that are as vulnerable as a single wagon crossing hostile Indian territory. It was better a hundred years ago when there were extended families so men could talk over decisions with fathers, brothers, cousins, etc. Many women hate patriarchy today because their husband is alone and makes a lot of mistakes. They don't read any instruction manuals for marriage. The culture overwhelms them with temptations of women who are everywhere, especially at work. He is tempted by Satan's lie of instant gratification with greasy, artery blocking fast food and car dealer's ads for loans and so-called conservative bankers who flood the mails with credit cards. Everything is so impersonal. Investments are mutual funds that are so impersonal they don't mean anything. The warm neighborhood spirit of small town barn-raisings and quilting bees is gone. Thousands of people came to the UC in the 70s and left because they felt alone. The UC needs to create an atmosphere of friendship.
Because men lead, Father says men especially must be united: "Especially the three men should be united, spiritually and physically." They must be so close and pure that each one would take care of the other family if one should die: "When one husband dies, the trinity should be responsible for the household of his family. From now on, we are to manage three households together; we are not to live alone. ... Consider Father's words as life itself. Be absolutely obedient. ... The trinity should feel the same even if they exchange their babies. If you feel troubled about this, you will fail. Don't worry if a husband of one family in the trinity dies. In that case, the remaining two families should be responsible." This is Completed Testament Age living. This is Father's new paradigm for the family. We're not eliminating patriarchy, but making it work perfectly. Satan cannot dominate a man and make him evil or incompetent in this ultimate insurance plan. Now men rely on distant, impersonal life insurance companies to protect their families, but God's way is personal, intimate and safe.
Children need other men nearby to see different aspects of God's masculinity and to see femininity in other women. If someone gets sick then there are others to help. In the Christian men's organization, Promise Keepers, a man wrote these similar thoughts in their magazine: "Too many men today are trying to go it alone in terms of their marriage and family life, their personal life, their work and their spiritual commitments. They are trying to scale mountains of Himalayan proportions solely on the strength of rugged independence. It won't work." He gives an analogy of a group of men scaling a mountain: "If a guy is linked to another guy above him, and that man in turn is linked to other men farther up the cliff, then together they have safety, stability and strength. If a man slips and begins to fall, 15 or 20 climbers absorb the impact and pull him back from disaster. But imagine a man climbing alone, with no support system. He may achieve great heights. But one wrong move, and he can fall thousands of feet to his death, without so much as anyone hearing his cry. That's why Scripture says, 'Two are better than one because they have a good return for their labor. For if either of them falls, the one will lift up his companion. But woe to the one who falls when there is not another to lift him up' (Eccl.4:9-10)." There is strength in numbers.
The following is from a seminar I attended on leadership in effective organizations:
Lessons from Geese
1. As each bird flaps its wings, it creates an uplift for others behind it. There is 71% more flying range in a v-formation than flying alone.
LESSON: People who share a common direction and sense of common purpose can get there quicker.
2. Whenever a goose flies out of formation it quickly feels the drag and tries to get back into position.
LESSON: It's harder to do something alone than together.
3. When the lead goose gets tired, it rotates into the formation and another goose flies at the head.
LESSON: Shared leadership and interdependence gives us each a chance to lead as well as opportunities to rest.
4. The geese in formation honk from behind to encourage those up front to keep up their speed.
LESSON: We need to make sure our honking is encouraging and not discouraging.
5. When a goose gets sick or wounded and falls, two geese fall out and stay with it until it revives or dies. Then they catch up or join another flock.
LESSON: Stand by your colleagues in difficult times as well as in good.
Father says women must overcome their selfish desire to live away from others: "Women are capricious, aren't they? ... Women want to live only with their spouses, right? Unless we destroy this standard, world unity is impossible. You have to understand this point. ... The three wives of a trinity should be one, so Father disciplines you right now to become one." Father goes on to say that 12 families should live together, then 1,200. We are to "live in the same village." There's a saying, "It takes a village to raise a child." Father says there must not be any fighting. If there is then "a tribal conference should be held to punish the ones who fight."
Michael Craig's vision
Father talks often of extended families. It is not God's way for parents to live alone or in nursing homes. Father often talks of old people being close to God. He says God is old! The advantages of living with others are endless. One brother had a vision of a house with four families living together and sharing a dining room. In the May, 1995 U.News Michael Craig wrote an article called "Garden Homes: A New Approach to Housing Ourselves." He wrote that "it would be impossible to succeed in our collective mission unless we pulled together" but unfortunately there is no "consensus on how this could be accomplished." The members in Detroit only met "on Sundays and special occasions. As each family became involved in the struggle to feed, clothe and shelter themselves, there was little time and energy left to promote a significant transformation of our collective social environment. In this regard, the concept 'where two or more are gathered' took on a new meaning for me. Single families existing miles apart would never succeed in bringing about the kind of radical change implied by True Parent's tradition. However, a physical community (minimum of four families) could perhaps generate enough 'critical mass' to tilt the scales."
This sure sounds great to me. Let's do it. The problem of course is that these couples must love each other. Families could begin the process by visiting each other's house and have potluck. Over time, if they gel then they can get the finances and commitment to live together. This brother's "vision" was families eating together in a community dining room and having room for gardens. He says there would be great savings and mutual aid by having "cooperation in food buying, babysitting, and a hundred other details of everyday life. There could be co-sharing of big ticket items such as lawnmowers, power tools, etc., as well. It is easy to imagine parents (and older children) having weekly meetings in the community dining area (perhaps over dinner) to discuss ways to cooperate to further reduce the economic burden of raising families. This would free each to devote more time to witnessing and teaching."
I agree. But I'd like to expand this brother's vision to communities that already exist and direct you to the book CoHousing by Charles Durrett and Kathryn McCamant that shows beautiful colored pictures of communities in Denmark that share a communal dining room called the "common house". Several of these communities have been built in America based on them. Please go to the library and check it out. It is exciting to see how wonderful these communities are. The genius of these planned communities is that they blend private and public property. Each family has their own fully equipped apartment or house with its own kitchen close to all the others.
Most people have their dinners in the Common House. In many communities people only cook once or twice a month. Let's say there are thirty families. That means each family cooks for everyone once a month. That leaves the women free from dinners for the rest of the month! And no dishes to do. Imagine how stressful it is for women to have to put dinner on the table their whole life. And the one night a month she does it, many families do it together or two families do it together. It is fun. McDonalds always has breakfast, lunch and dinner. If families lived in communities it would be like a hospital that always runs. No one can guarantee they will not get sick or even live to old age. Community is God's insurance. No one can be there physically and emotionally at all times. We need friends. Hospitals can run around the clock because there are many people committed to be there. Our homes should operate as well as a hospital or McDonalds. In fact they should be even better because of the love of everyone. To manage a home alone is simply too much for one couple to do. Especially if there is a war and men must go to fight. Community gives us security. This world will go into Completion Stage when it gives up individualism for community living based on the cohousing example. An added benefit of living in such communities is that people are much less inclined to leave. It stops the incessant mobility that has ripped apart families. It would encourage extended families living together and having businesses and investments locally. This would increase the power of grandfather patriarchs and love of elders. The Bible says a good man leaves an inheritance to his children's children. Living this way would create empires where descendants would be born with all the financial wealth and love and support he or she would ever need.
In Cohousing developments cars are parked in one place. There is walk ways and play areas between the houses and large spaces of land for gardens and for kids and dogs to run. It is a perfect blend of privacy and community. The early communities in Denmark stressed private areas over public, but experience showed that people enjoyed getting together so much that later communities emphasized public areas. Satan has made America individualistic. The American Dream of a single family dwelling has become a nightmare for many people. Criminals usually do not attack groups. There is strength in numbers. The stress for one woman to always put a meal on the dinner table everyday for 50 years is too much. Men trying to figure everything out alone drives them to drink and TV. In CoHousing the authors write: "Developed by the residents themselves, cohousing combines the autonomy of private dwellings with the advantages of shared facilities and community living." In another book on communities, Builders of the Dawn, the authors spend a few pages on many communities in America. Some are totally socialistic. No private property. It works for some. The most successful though are capitalistic cooperative ventures. The ideal world will be everyone owning their own property and sharing common areas. It's like an advanced form of condominiums. Legally everyone owns and could sell his property but there are group legalities to honor.
The advantages of living this way are enormous. A man's role is to protect his family and in these communities there are many kids who play together and women sharing babysitting and all the kids are watched constantly. They are safe. The book CoHousing explains some of the exciting things people have done. Some have pooled their resources and done things together they could never do alone. In writing on a community called Trudeslund they say: "Twenty-nine of the households have also pooled their resources to buy a 17-room vacation house in Sweden." Some families share a car, some got together and bought a sailboat. "There is only one lawn mower. Items needed only occasionally, such as tools, typewriters, and camping equipment, can generally be borrowed or shared, instead of each family owning one of everything. (we could share in buying father's boats). This sharing of resources gives all residents access to a wider variety of conveniences at a lower cost per family than is possible in traditional single-family houses." There are so many advantages to having a community of friends. They write, "With nearly fifty children living in Trudeslund, there is no lack of playmates. The pedestrian-oriented site gives them lots of room to run without worrying about cars. The community serves as a large, extended family -- children have many people besides their parents to look after them, to whom they can turn for assistance, or just to talk to. It becomes second nature for the older kids to keep an eye on the smaller ones, and the adults know every child by name."
They write, "Also located in the common house are a workshop, a darkroom for photography, a television room, a walk-in freezer used by the community store and individual families, a guest room, and a music room where teenagers can jam' on drums and electric guitars without bothering anyone. A recent addition is the computer." Wouldn't this building be perfect for school? Instead of home schooling -- we'd have community schooling. The creative arrangements between people are endless. There is a magazine called Communities and it has ads for Cohousing projects. One was in Bainbridge Is., Washington called Winslow Cohousing. They say they will send an information pack for $3. (353 Wallace Way N.E. Bainbridge Is., WA 98110 206-780-1323)
In their ad they say, "We are a pedestrian village within walking distance of the Seattle ferry, schools, stores and library. We are looking for a few more members who value privacy of their own fully equipped homes, and enjoy living in a cooperative community. We share a 5,000 sq. ft. Common House with dinners five times a week, cooperative childcare, recreation facilities, playground, orchard, woods, and garden, as well as a variety of skills, fun and friendships." What if we did this? There are a number of these communities in America and more are being built. We have attended meetings of a group trying to start one in our town but we only want to live with others who believe in True Parents and share our values of men providing and women staying home. Another community I read about was one in New York. Write to EcoVillage at Ithaca, Anabel Taylor Hall, Cornell University, Ithaca, NY 14853; (607) 255-8276. There is a newsletter and resources about cohousing from The CoHousing Network, PO Box 2584, 1259 Addison Street, #113, Berkeley CA 94702, (510) 526-6124. They have lists of groups nationwide, legal documents, slides and a video of clips assembled from national and local news programs. The video is 20 minutes long and does a good job of giving a visual idea of what these communities are like. People living in them are interviewed. It makes you want to live there just as you want to live with members when you hear the Principle.
A Christian couple, Dave and Neta Jackson, wrote a book called Living Together in a World Falling Apart about their experience of living with another couple. They had decided to live in a community because they "were concerned about the emphasis on material things and the lack of community spirit so prevalent in our society." They tried to be as everyone else was -- "independent and self-sufficient. Materially, we did our best not to need anyone else. We'd been struggling through many of our problems alone, afraid to admit our weaknesses or to ask for help. We had to keep up an image of strength and self-sufficiency. We didn't involve our friends in our real concerns, and they didn't involve us."
When they had their first child, Neta stayed home, and it was hard financially. Neta "discovered that big doses of loneliness and isolation came along with the joys of motherhood. She missed the stimulation of the people at her office, the new ideas, the events, and the creative challenge of writing. When I'd come home at night she'd milk me for the details of the day so that she could have at least some vicarious involvement with the outside world. I got tired of doing instant replays."
"One other thing was getting to us -- the fear of irrelevance. As evangelicals ... we wanted to live out our faith." They wanted to live the example of the "city on the hill." They found another couple to share a big farmhouse. "The most immediate joy for Neta, and Jan, too, was the companionship during the day.... it was like another planet. They shared the household chores and cooking, took turns babysitting so the other could have free time, helped each other keep perspective on the minor tragedies of a baby's first year, spent time each day just talking and sharing as two adults."
"It had an immediate effect on our marriage relationship. Instead of coming home to a frustrated, tearful wife, I usually found Neta relaxed and happy. Instead of having to pick up the pieces of her day, we could create and share an evening together."
"Not long after we moved together, Gary and I were standing on the back porch steps, making plans for a vegetable garden the next spring, when suddenly Gary said, 'You know, Dave, there's a real security in joining our lives together. I mean, if that old furnace in the basement blows up, it's not just my problem, it's our problem. That just takes a big load off my mind.'"
"He was right. I felt it too: the freedom of knowing that we were in this together .... We began to learn what it takes to open ourselves, to get beyond the shell where we live so much of our lives."
An interesting thing was that people felt more comfortable in coming over to this little commune: "There was something about two young families living together that made it easier, for our end, to open our home more frequently to other people; and other people found it easier to drop in on us. When Neta and I lived by ourselves, we had frequently invited students from a nearby college to come over. But they rarely came. After our move together with Jan and Gary, kids began dropping in evenings or weekends and bringing their friends. One student said, "Before, I always thought I might be intruding on your privacy if I just dropped in. But since you're open enough to live with another couple -- well, if you're busy, I can find someone else to talk to. I don't feel awkward."
Mike Craig writes, "Perhaps what inspires me most about this idea, however, is the potential to develop a daily environment for our children to experience the intensity of joyful give and take as comes only through a physically based God-centered community (remember that first weekend workshop, gathering with brothers and sisters to sing songs and share testimonies?). Although we have wandered many years in the wasteland of this 'misdirected' world, do we wish the same for our children? I believe Father has tried to teach us we can enter the direct dominion of God's love only as a community. To commune from afar, or merely 'in the spirit' appears to me insufficient. Such thinking is not the Completed Testament."
Father does tell us to live in a community. He says, "My goal is to establish the ideal model community and, based upon that community, the ideal model for the country." Large communities based on small loving communities will solve world hunger and people will come to see it and join. These communities, he says, will "transcend race, culture, nation and religion ... this is how I will begin saving the starving people of the world. Once we have this kind of ideal community established, people from all over the world will come to see it." Father says, "We will build condominiums .... it will be like a common lodging, with 300-500 houses together." Another time he said, "Blessed couples should live in condominiums together with people of four different nationalities, forming a four-position foundation." Let's build them in every state. This is how we can win our relatives in Tribal Messiah. They will see the power and love we have. Father says, "This model community can have a powerful influence all over the world, particularly as the secular world is declining fast. Only I am creating this formula. It will appear like a lighthouse in the darkness. The world now is in darkness and I am building this model community as a lighthouse in the midst of the darkness." Father wants a huge community, maybe in South America, on many acres of land and 160 nationalities living in harmony to be like a showcase and tourist attraction, but let's build smaller ones in every state.
Robert Schuller gives good advice in his book Power Ideas for a Happy Family by saying that one should study those who are successful: "Follow winners -- don't follow losers. Listen to those who have succeeded and are succeeding. Don't listen to failures. Let a winner lead the way! Listen to the award winners and let the champions inspire you. Listen to people like Dr. Norman and Mrs. Ruth Peale, or Dr. Billy and Mrs. Ruth Graham. You will find that, with rare exception, the winning families are families that read the Bible, pray, and practice vital religion. Successful homes are imbued with the Spirit of God." I would go further and say that knowing and living the values taught by the Andelins will bring even more happiness than solely relying on spirit. Tim LaHaye mentions in one of his books that a study was done that proved that families that pray together, stay together. The study showed there was only one in over a thousand marriages had a divorce out of a group of couples studied that consistently prayed.
Schuller gives many good points in his little book on family. The Andelins are the textbook, but I recommend reading and learning from successful Christians such as Schuller. He has a successful marriage. I saw a book once that was about the wives of famous Christian leaders. It struck me that all of them had successful marriages except two whose husbands created a national scandal by committing adultery. Tammy Faye Baker divorced her husband and Jimmy Swaggart's wife didn't. Over many years I have watched all of these men preach on TV, such as Jerry Falwell, Billy Graham, Schuller, Pat Robertson, Oral Roberts, etc. Some I've gone to see in person when they came to my town. Do you see it as a coincidence that the only televangelists that consistently had their wife on TV with them and who talked a lot were the two who had husband's betray them? I don't. And to get more specific, Tammy Baker was always next to her husband chattering away, while Jimmy Swaggart's wife spoke regularly, but not too much. The Baker's divorced, while the Swaggarts didn't. It is dangerous for a marriage when a woman outshines her husband. Father has Mother speak, but only on his terms.
Let's look at some of the good advice Schuller gives: "Join me in the greatest of all social adventures and challenges -- making your family a fun-filled place of happy excitement!"
"What is a family? It is the smallest unit of society. Planet earth is made up of continents, made up of nations, made up of states, made up of communities, and made up of families."
"The family is a little town, a tiny state, a mini-nation. In government, more often than not, the family is more of an autocracy than a democracy."
The husband is a King.
The wife is a Queen.
Every son is a Prince.
Every daughter is a Princess.
"At best, this form is a benevolent autocracy. The king holds court from time to time to confer what is best for all his subjects. His great heart beats with love for all his loyal and loving countrymen .... Here is a government where every citizen has a hot line to the head of state."
Once I read that Billy Graham said he hoped each Christian would not bring shame to Jesus. Schuller says the same thing. He tells us we should not bring shame to our family as well: "As a mini-nation the family has a unique diplomatic corps. In this, the smallest of all countries, every member from child to adult, is an ambassador-at-large. Every member, young or old, is made to feel that as he moves in other countries, cities, circles, or communities, outside his family borders, he is an ambassador for his family. From childhood he is taught, rightly, to be at his best behavior while away from home, or in the company of others outside his family circle."
Schuller is lucky in that his children, as far as I know, have not brought shame to his family or God. Billy and Ruth Graham have a son who has a book called Rebel With a Cause in which he tells of how he smoked cigarettes, drank and was distant from his family as he tried to cope with being the son of a famous father who was away from home for a tremendous amount of time. Now he is fine and taking over his Father's ministry. President Reagan's daughter, Patti, posed nude in Playboy magazine and talked of her difficulty with her mother. Nancy Reagan wrote in her biography that she did everything possible to raise her daughter to have right values but Patti rebelled and became a socialist/feminist. Mrs. Reagan said it isn't always totally the parent's fault. Some children just don't learn. I saw in the paper recently that President Jimmy Carter's daughter, Amy, got married. She had been living with him first. I remember the press Carter got when he said he did not want any single person in his administration to shack up before getting married. George Bush has a daughter who got divorced. Reagan himself was divorced.
This is not a perfect world. No matter how hard we try, we have to fight the culture that screams to us to be immoral. Oprah is the richest woman in Hollywood. She will not marry her lover and have children. She pushes pre-marital sex in her influential talk show. How much more difficult it must be for those who are in famous families. Reagan was called by God and made President by Father to end Communism. His children suffered for that. It took tremendous energy to fight evil. In the process Reagan's son Michael couldn't get along with his step-mother, Nancy. It's easy to say that children of God's central figures should be as faithful and trusting as Isaac who purely followed his father Abraham.
Father once said the greatest man in the twentieth century America was Martin Luther King. The reasons are obvious. But we should also understand that we should not be so judgmental to him for having committed adultery. Champions of God are under unbelievable pressure. We must be very careful about judging. Often, fallen man doesn't see the forest for the trees. Just because there is problems in the True Family doesn't make them the true family. Father has been in jails all over the world many times. Martin Luther King and St. Paul were jailed also. So was Jesus Christ. We have to be careful in judging.
To me, the solution to all the problems that beset everyone is living in trinities. Whenever the UC settles down it should make it's primary goal that families marry other families. Nora Spurgin wrote once of her experience in having her family live with the Jones family for a while. Everyone must adjust and learn not to be so critical. She said it was like a marriage. And it is. Personally, I think four is better than three. Just imagine how it would be if three or four families would commit to a certain geographic place and live together for the rest of their lives intimately under the same roof. They ate all meals together. If one man died, the others would be the fathers of his children who already accept them. What if a mother died? There would be other women to be their mothers immediately.
Have you ever seen a one person business that wasn't there one day. I have. Sometimes there will usually be a little note on the door saying they couldn't make it that day. Sometimes they give a reason like they have to go a funeral or they are ill. Will you ever see a note like that on the door of your local hospital? Your local MacDonalds? Of course not. There is strength in numbers. Nuclear families are sitting targets for Satan. Living in a trinity doesn't solve all the problems, but it would eliminate most of them -- especially when trinities live next to other trinities in large communities. Children need to have other adults living with them. Parents can't always be there. Hospitals have to serve breakfast, lunch and dinner everyday. In a trinity that would happen even if the men were at war and several of the women were sick in bed. There would probably be at least one person to carry on. To be successful requires planning. We must plan on having our family being taken care of. Would Patti Reagan be in Playboy if she had two or three other women who had always lived with her? I doubt it. Father blessed three couples first. Unfortunately, they did not live in Father's house in America because they had missions around the world. Father had so few people and they were needed elsewhere. So the True Children did not have father figures and mother figures to have breakfast with.
Everyone bashes their parents for not being there for them and giving them what they needed. But no parent can give everything. Parents can't even guarantee they will be alive or well. We should not blame our parents. They would just blame their parents. If we go all the way back Adam would blame Eve for seducing him and she would blame Satan. In the end, it's an angel that is leading the evil forces. Satan's greatest tactic is to get people weak and go for the kill. Father has come with the key to make us strong and win the war against him through living in trinities and communities. When the UC lives this way, millions will join and then billions.
Father says individualism is good if it is sacrificial: "Selfish individualism is doomed. Sacrificial individualism will blossom. Individuality in itself is good. God gave each of us a unique way to serve. But individualism without God can only build castles on the sands of decay." There is term called "rugged individualism" that is the belief that we can do it alone. There is some truth to it in that we should be strong and take care of ourselves. But it is mostly arrogant to think we can do it alone. Somebody will have to take care of us sometimes in our life. Fallen man is foolish to count on insurance or government social security to take care of them in nursing homes. The cost is outrageous. One year in a nursing home is tens of thousands of dollars. If someone needed care from the time they are 70 to 100 -- a total of 30 years that would be an enormous amount of money and too much for an impersonal insurance company to handle. We need to have families be nursing homes. The current madness of government taking over family responsibility is "selfish individualism" as well as the notion that children are to leave the home and not live as an extended family must give way to Father's vision of community.
Nora Spurgin on trinities
We should do what Father teaches and he teaches that we are to live in communities. Father says we are to live in "family settlements. We will have our own enterprises and businesses. In the future (he said this in the 70s. Isn't it time we did this?) we will have many, many places where families can be productive, raise their children, and build schools to educate their children. (Not improve public schools). We'll get bigger."
"I have a plan to establish ideal cities and villages in many places. We will have productive, working communities where our members will support themselves economically. The atmosphere will be different from the outside world. Money will not be the central purpose, but while establishing productive businesses, our members will fulfill their responsibility to God and service to others."
Nora Spurgin wrote in Lifestyles: "Rev. Moon often talks about creating more trinities among the couples; a trinity is three couples or families that are responsible for helping one another. It's like an extended family and they would be financially concerned for each other." The Church endlessly talks of love and being sacrificial. When three brothers live together and help each other with their income tax returns and will care for the wife of a brother who dies or gets sick, then we will see how heartistic this church really is. Doing PR and seeing ministers or spending a few hours at a food bank as a volunteer is minor to the stretch of heart they are going to have to make when they begin to really try to live God's way of life by living in trinities committed for life.
Nora says, "For me this would be a beautiful system, although I know from the reality of living with other couples over the past few years, that there is much to work out. It's just like a marriage (where you have to work out all the little personal problems and idiosyncrasies) -- the same is true when you live with other couples. You have to come to love one another, almost like you come to love your marriage partner. You have to come to accept the other people and be willing to think of them and their needs and concerns as well as your own and your own family's. When you live with another family with children and you see their children doing things you don't particularly like -- and your children doing things that they don't like -- it requires some stretching to reach a point of workability. We see this as part of our road to maturity or perfection."
Children would pray in community schools
Father criticizes the secular trend in America: "There are many signs of atheism in this once God-centered nation. There have been many laws enacted that only a godless society could accept. There was a time when prayer was America's daily diet. Today you hear prayers in America's schools no longer." He says the UC is a movement to restore God's values that is "here to rekindle America's spirit. America has a great tradition. All you have to do is revive it. We need a new movement of Pilgrims with a new vision." We would have praying in our schools. The common house could be used as a school and later as the community grew larger a bigger building could be built with labs, gymnasiums, etc.
The UC, Father says, "is here to proclaim God's love and His way of life. We do not want to become just an organization. We do not want to become an institution. We want to be a movement that will live God's way -- not with our lips, but with our hearts and in our deeds." Living in cohousing communities is that deed. The common house would be the church and church is everyday.
We should be superior to Walt Disney
The Walt Disney Co. is involved in building a planned community of 20,000 people in Celebration, Florida. They say it's a blueprint for the future, but the real future is trinities living under the same roof eating breakfast, lunch and dinner together.
Father says build businesses in our communites
One idea to combine finances with housing is to build some cohousing communities in a resort situation. That way people could come and experience nature and see in person how people should live in a community. Father said that he wants to build resorts: "I want to build roads, camps and luxury villas. Visitors can go down to the water, fish and really relax. People will appreciate the opportunity and will come." I look forward to day when we have newspapers everywhere. Father tells us to: "Not only can you create an independent newspaper in the fifty states, but you can establish a newspaper in each large city. We will influence things in a positive direction. Someone has to put a stop to the decadence of liberalism, homosexuality and drug abuse." Let's put some businesses in our housing communities so children can see more of their father by visiting him at work sometimes and he doesn't have to commute so far or relocate.
Father often says, "We have to make a revolution." Living in communities is that final revolutionary step to victory.
7. I will stretch to love not only my family, but at least two other families as much as my own. If a man or woman dies in my trinity, I will take care of that family by being there in person and spiritually for the spouse and children. Trinities should live next to other trinities and as much as possible the men should have businesses near by the cohousing communities that are privately owned. Families should try to live as extended families with the grandfather as patriarch.